In order to find a solution to the problems our youths face today, we must understand what the problem is. The best way to do that is:
1. 'Listen,' and then give careful thought and consideration
before making a response.
2. Work with the youths towards a solution - the key words are:
"work with, not just work towards".
3. Never deal with the child and the bully at the same time.
(Confrontation with a bully is a child's worse nightmare, because they are immediately labelled as a snitch by the entire school)
Too often victims are left to feel guilty.
Many times they are made to feel guilty.
A Prime example is that of Howard J. who wrote that his life changed when he read the story entitled 'Jack' - a character from the book S.J. It was amazingly similar to what he endured as a young boy!
Jack was repeatedly sexually abused by a trusted relative and was barely able to live through the pain and embarrassment.
However, 15 years later, Jack is a loving husband and father of 2. As a counselor, he is devoted to helping others (young and old) to understand the difference between being a perpetrator and a victim.
This story helped Howard J. to pray, meditate, forgive and have peace. He has not only learned that he was a victim, he realized just who it was that needed to pray for forgiveness – and that he was not the one!
Little Child Blue
(follows the short story of ‘Jack” in
You lay awake, afraid to sleep
fighting fears and shedding tears
all because you’re so ashamed
of playing grown up mating games
To scared to tell, you hide it well
the ache within your soul to scream
You go along, without protest
a pawn played in his evil scheme
Loss of pride is what you suffer
self-respect is smothered over
repentance you no longer seek
for sins of which you cannot speak
This battle you can’t fight alone
for many thousands have been shown
there’s understanding of your plight
and those who’ll help to make it right
Oh little child blue, come blow your horn
and shout for help to set you free
For sleepless nights and fears and pains
awaits for those who don’t complain
No longer do you have to hide
you must reveal his evil side
It’s not your fault, you’re not to blame
no need to feel such endless shame
You’re but a victim of his crime
he stole your youth before your time
He killed and murdered innocence
so it’s his shame, LET HIM REPENT!
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